Complicating triangle affairs...

Was talking to my gal-fren last night over msn & she's having some problem with her partner & now, am also on it "counselling" my guy-fren on the same topic... 3rd party... Not quite exactly same situation though..

Gal-fren asked if i think 1 is able to love/like 2 persons @ the same time. i think so & its just a matter of who's more impt to u @ tt pt in time... she posted if i could tolerate if my bf still have feelings for his ex... well, in a lover's eye, she cant even tolerate a grain of sand, let alone the presence of a person... but if he's honest & open abt it & not doing anything abt it, i think tt's fine for me.. Perhaps its true tt when u cant hv tt person/love, u'll just keep tt in a corner of ur heart with fond memories... Do u count tt as cheating?

Guy-fren agrees with my msn nick "Love is such a complicated matter.. why risk in it?"... when i wrote tt, its more of if we know it is so complicated, then why do we risk everything in? Can 1 determine how much to put it? But being in a r/s, doesnt it mean to give ur best to make it work with no regrets?

He is having some probs with his partner cos he thinks tt he is "flirting" with some1 else tt is making him uncomfortable & scare of losing him... I guess his partner is also just testing water to see if things will work out better with the new person.. My friend will just have to talk it out & make things clear with him.. if not, suspecting ur other half in a r/s is both mentally & emotionally tiring chore... But am i not too? Haha... I need to learn tt as well...